No matter how you live, there will always be people who don’t like you

 

In this life, people will experience such moments more or less:

At the age of 20, you spend all your time studying, most of the time in the library, so some people say that you are not gregarious;

At the age of 30, you never refused invitations from colleagues and tried to cater to the habits of others, so some people said that you were too hypocritical;

At the age of 40, you want to get a good feel of life, and you often plan trips with your family, so some people say you spend money rashly.

After half a lifetime, I found that not only was he too tired to live, but he also lost his freedom.

In the final analysis, as Milan Kundera said:

It is the source of uneasiness and suspicion that oneself is judged by others' eyes.

Your fatigue is just because you care about yourself too much in others' mouths.

There is a kind of tiredness, called to live in the evaluation of others

No matter how you live, there will always be people who don't like you. So what is the conclusion? The conclusion is that when you live as who you are, some people still like you and some people don't like you. But you will like yourself more.

"Which is more important if others like you or yourself like yourself?"

"Both are important. But when the two cannot be taken into account, it is more important to like yourself."

I agree with this point of view. After all, it is not so easy to be liked for a lifetime.

No matter how well you do, you can hear the voice of doubt and get all kinds of denials.

The reason why people are tired when they are alive is because there are choices that we can't have both, and some people will never like you, but you are struggling to do things that have no results at all.

No one can make each of their own identities so perfect, so if you care too much about the evaluation of others, you will live very awkwardly.

A life controlled by the expectations around you is like a puppet, who can never have its own soul.

The most comfortable relationship between people is not to please

What is the simplest mode of interpersonal communication?

That is: You always have to know that 90% of the people around you can afford to offend.

A sociologist in the United States once mentioned: "Any interpersonal relationship is essentially an exchange relationship."

It seems that life is always like this. People who get angry are good-tempered people. People who are considerate of others must always be considerate. Those who take care of others are not taken care of.

One day you will understand that a smile is not necessarily a hug, it may also be unscrupulous harm.

There are not so many people in this world who compare their hearts to one's heart, to please people who will only get used to them, and think too much about the feelings of others, and they are destined to be uncomfortable.

Never, explain yourself to others

The value of your life depends on the way you view yourself, not the views of others.

Being misunderstood and not understood is the normal state of life and the destiny of the expresser.

Too many explanations are all in vain, and too many proofs are nothing but coldness.

Sometimes, in the face of doubts and denials from others, silence is the most powerful response.

There is no character in the world that can avoid offending people. Talking will offend the villain, speaking tactfully will offend quick tempers, good people will offend principled people, and sleek people will offend smart people.

Since you will offend people, then be yourself, and be yourself so that you are not afraid to offend people, because you can bear the consequences.

It goes without saying for those who know you, those who don't know you don't need to argue, and never explain yourself to others.

The most advanced way of living in life is:

Don't always explain, don't always please, don't be humble forever.

If you don't wrong yourself, someone will appreciate your self-confidence; treat yourself better, and the world will treat you gently.