Clear away some distracting thoughts, let yourself be lightly loaded and face life, keep your body and mind happy every day, and live every minute of the moment.
Learning to let go is to learn to let go of everything that is unnecessary and to truly understand yourself.
I used to think that I would be very hardworking and thrifty.
I bought spare buttons for clothes, spare heels for high-heeled shoes, and various gifts such as tapes, mirrors, rubber bands, and post-it notes purchased online. I thought it might be useful someday, so I collected it. The drawer was never taken out again.
I don’t like the clothes anymore, and I’m not ready to use spare buttons; high heels wear for a summer, and the original heels will not rot; gifts such as tapes, mirrors, and rubber bands are coming in waves. A wave.
A drawer is stacked with one year's free daily newspapers that were won in the event; a drawer is filled with various unknown chargers, power cords, and data cables; expired baking ingredients in the refrigerator, expired home medicines in the medicine chest; raw materials in the shoe cabinet The high-heeled shoes in front of the child did not wear it after becoming a mother; the size S clothes in the closet before becoming a mother didn’t wear for a year or two, but it seemed to be waiting for me to adjust my figure back from the size L; if the child wears small clothes, just give it away I gave some to others, but now there is still a box.
The various unused bottles and jars on the dressing table that have been bought back but like the new and hate the old; my own glasses have been replaced with 400 degrees, but the 275 degrees glasses are still on the cabinet in the study; there are already a lot of magazines I have read; There are a few pens in the pen holder that can’t write ink; turn to the top box of the bookcase, the so-called souvenirs of the love period, some are just my train ticket to his city or even shopping together. receipt.
Each of the children's graffiti works felt unique and whimsical. I wanted to collect them and leave them to him when he grows up. So I bought one copy after another in the folder and it was not enough.
I bought new things and didn't deal with the old ones in time, so there were more and more things in the house, and my mood became more and more depressed.
I once thought that there was not enough space in the house, so I bought one storage bag after another, and spent a lot of time and energy sorting it out. I always thought that the things in the house were too messy just because they were not organized.
It wasn't until later that I later learned of a disease called "hoarding disorder", that I instantly felt that I was not diligent and thrifty, but that I was sick.
Hideko Yamashita said in the book "Die She Li": "What is not used is full of curse-like energy."
"These things that have been kept in the living environment for several months or even years, but because they are not fresh food, they have not rotted. But if they are functionally speaking, they have already rotted. Being in this way In the environment, it is almost equivalent to living in a garbage storage room."
Living in a trash holding room full of spell-like bound energy, how can people feel comfortable?
But why is it so difficult to throw away this "junk"?
There are three types of people who think that Yamashita can't throw things away.
One is escapism. No time to stay at home, no way to clean up the house. Find all kinds of things to keep yourself busy. Anyway, the house is messy and I don't want to stay at home anymore.
The second is the past type. The things of the past must be kept as a baby, nostalgic for the happy time of the past.
The third is worrying about the future. The things you hoard are mainly for the sake of things that will happen in the future.
Only then did I realize that I was obsessed with the past that I couldn't go back, but also anxious about the unknowable future. In short, I succeeded in letting myself not live wholeheartedly in the present.
You must be cured if you are sick.
First, control buying from the source. This is still a bit difficult for most women. Especially for things like clothes, shoes, bags and skin care products.
Now I will refrain from buying skin care products when they are really running out. If you don't use them during the season, you can wipe your hands and feet and wipe your body as little as possible.
Buy one piece of clothes and shoes when you come in, but also clean one out.
If you buy something inappropriate and cannot be returned, you can resell it or give it away.
Another way is to leave the shopping cart to calm down for a few days before buying. If you look at it a few days later and still like it, buy it. I found that some things will no longer look right after a few days.
In addition to controlling not to buy and buy casually, we should also throw away existing items.
First, start with those things that will never be used and have little use value, and pack them all up and put them in the trash cans in the corridors and leave them to the cleaning aunt of the community. Such as those small gifts, spare buckles and the like.
Outdated newspapers, magazines, and broken home appliances were also sorted out, and recyclers came to collect them.
Let go of things that are no longer suitable if you like them. Gifts that can be given away, donations that can be donated.
There is a dress that I like very much. I just had a baby at that time, so I can only wear it in extra size. When I wore it to work for the first time, a colleague liked it very much, and was embarrassed to buy the same one as me.
After a while, I lost a yard of weight and dressed a little bit generously, so I euphemistically expressed that I wanted to give the skirt to a colleague, hoping she would not dislike it. Unexpectedly, she liked it very much, and she often wore it to work later.
Other dresses in S size, thinking that even if the figure is restored, those styles and colors are no longer suitable for my age. Decisively gave it to the younger brother's girlfriend, she thought she was eye-catching, let her pick away.
There are also some winter warm clothes, packaged and sent to the mountainous areas in need (some cities have charity purchase points, just organize them and send them there). The others are packed and placed in the trash cans in the corridors and left to the disposal of the cleaning aunt.
As for the items that represent the past, such as photo albums and medals can be necessary souvenirs, most of the others can be thrown away.
It is important to know that some things that have passed over the years will give off some old musty smell. Year after year, when such things accumulate, the atmosphere of the home is like a museum.
Throw it all at once-note that "throwing" here means cleaning up, but it does not mean it must be wasted. I am firmly opposed to waste, and I still advocate making the best use of everything.
Sometimes the leftover bread at home will take the children to the community to feed the fish-not only is there less clutter in the house, but I also feel more comfortable in my heart.
Don't think that the problem of hoarding these unusable things in the light reality can be cured, and the hoarding disease will appear in other ways.
The WeChat favorites are full of various articles. At first, I only read the beginning and thought it was good. Then I put it away and wanted to wait for some day when I was free to read the results and never read it.
I downloaded a variety of useful APPs on my phone, but they didn’t play a role except for the memory.
I heard that there are still people who are hoarding contacts. People who teach and teach are all socializing, I am afraid that one day they will be helpful to them.
But in fact, when you really need help, these people who don't have a deep friendship may not help you, and you don't want to find him.
These could have been "thrown away". However, the articles in the favorites have not been deleted, and the mobile APP has not been uninstalled. Those who have not had a deep relationship are still on WeChat.
The general hoarding behavior is not a serious mental illness, but to some extent it shows that the person is too anxious about the future or obsessed with the past. If things go on like this, it will definitely have an impact on people's physical and mental health.
As the saying goes: There is gain when there is home. People who want everything will end up getting nothing.
Clean up some things that are not needed at home and exchange for a comfortable and tidy home environment to make you feel better every time you come home.
Clean up some useless social interactions, make each relationship clear, and no matter how well maintained, make the emotional world stronger and more warm.
Clear away some distracting thoughts, let yourself be lightly loaded and face life, keep your body and mind happy every day, and live every minute of the moment.
After all, the past cannot go back, and the future will be in the future. Only the present can be grasped.
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